Connecting To Your Inner Empath
You now have the basic tools of an empath: awareness of the Beta and
Alpha skills. From chapter four you have
gained information about Alpha messages and empath sensitivity. You
were introduced to the process of Alpha associating, allowing impressions
to forms spontaneously without censoring.
With just the first two empath letters you can begin to recognize and
identify the language of Dreamtongue as it happens around you. The
silent but powerful language is being spoken by everything around you.
It is flowing from every person you meet, usually without his
or her awareness of it.
Dreamtongue passes into your being and resonates deep within your psyche.
You generate the empath language at all times, it flows from your center
out through your mind/body into the world around you. To communicate
with Dreamtongue requires that you look at life with the "eyes
of an empath."
All of life is a language. Every living thing,
every event and action, every object in existence is a part of that
language. The movement and the relationship between every single thing
are the silent words of Dreamtongue. You hear this language with your
heart, speak it with your soul, and your thoughts can be the channel
between the two.
Theta is the channel between your innermost empath sense and your outermost
awareness. Whether or not Theta will someday be identified with a specific
organ in the brain, like the pineal gland, the hippocampus, or the hypothalamus
or if it remains simply as a "construct", is not important
to your training as an empath.
It will eventually happen that science will "discover" empath
abilities and will link them to specific parts of the brain. I project
that empath abilities will be related to every part of the brain but
will be specifically connected to the brain stem area, the amygdala,
and the limbic system; areas that are tied into emotional responses,
as well as general body responses. To become an empath only requires
that you are aware of your empath center, or the inner empath as I call
it in this course.
The purpose of this chapter is to increase awareness of your own empath
center and to strengthen your connection to it. Of course you are already
connected to your inner empath, so what has to be developed is enhanced
awareness and skills for strengthening that connection.
Theta awareness is deeper within your body/mind than Beta and Alpha,
it is in your unconscious mind. Beta is your waking state, Alpha takes
place just below your waking state, but Theta is normally only available
to you during sleep. In Theta your brain waves slow way down to around
4 to 7 cycles per second.
You can consciously reach Theta through a profound meditational state
with discipline and practice. I teach a specific type of meditation
for Empaths called "focus sitting," which helps you maintain
a direct channel to Theta. Yet there are other ways to access Theta
and learning those other ways is the goal of stage five of your training.
Theta is the level of vivid dreaming. When you are asleep and in a
Theta state, R.E.M. (rapid eye movement) occurs as you dream. In Theta
your body/mind takes everything that is going on within it and uses
that material to produce a dream.
Dreams are the result of physiological states, mental and emotional
states, memories, imagination, and empathic states. All of these states
weave together into a tapestry we call dreams. Some dreams occur at
the Alpha level and have that Alpha vagueness about them. Alpha dreams
are general feelings and reactions, indistinct images, etc. Theta dreams
are typically the vivid dreams that seem very real and colorful.
Dream research shows that everyone dreams every night and that all
dreams are typically in color. The problem for some people is that they
do not remember their dreams and/or do not remember the color. Memory
of dreaming or the colors in the dream are often lost by the time a
person wakes up. The place where this dream activity occurs is the Theta
Theta is the level where inner impressions and activities form into
composite images and ideas. It is in Theta where the more defined empathic
messages are available. A Theta message usually occurs as a thought
that enters your awareness. "Oh, I need to call John," or
"The phone is going to ring," or "This person is from
Arkansas." Theta messages are basically specific by design. By
specific I do not mean always exact. By specific I mean that there is
more content to the message than just a general feeling.
One morning I ran into a friend that I had not seen in a while. We
hugged and greeted each other. During the hug the thought popped into
my mind, "She has been out west." I had no conscious reason
for thinking that thought. There were no visible (beta) signs. So I
asked her and she said yes, that she had just returned the day before.
There was specific information but the exact state was not named. I
have had countless experiences where the exact information was named
but that is not always the case. This is an example of a Theta message.
Theta is the level of telepathy, for lack of a better word. The working
definition for telepathy is mind-to-mind communication, or what I believe
is more accurate: nervous_system-to-nervous_system communication. Telepathy
occurs as two living things link up with each other at an empathic or
unconscious level. Telepathy does not mean that you are reading a person's
mind, like reading a ticker tape print out. There can be word for word
communication but the more common type of telepathy involves just getting
the same emotions and overall ideas of another person.
The sender of the message (either intentional or unintentional) may
be thinking of you but not know how to reach you. You, as the receiver
of the message may get a body sensation as a response to that message
but would probably not notice it; you might get an Alpha response but
it could be too vague to understand, if the message is persistent and
you are paying attention, then you may have a Theta response in the
form of a thought, "I need to call John." This whole process
involves a telepathic connection but is not called telepathy until the
thought occurs which encodes the message.
Telepathy includes the sending as well as the receiving of
messages. As an empath you will learn to do both. How well
you send or receive depends a lot on your personality. A person who
is a good listener and is sensitive to the feelings of others tends
to be a good receiver. A person who is easily distracted and is not
really interested in other people's thoughts and feelings generally
has difficulty receiving.
When a person is self-absorbed they have difficulty receiving. At any
given moment when you are exclusively focused on one thing or activity,
you may not notice a telepathic message. Sending a telepathic message
only requires that you think of the person you are sending it to while
you focus on the thought. The more connected you feel to the person
while you are sending the thought, the more direct the message will
The type of relationship you have with the sender/receiver also determines
the quality of the telepathy. The closer you are to someone emotionally
the greater your telepathic connections. If you feel comfortable being
close to someone, you are more likely to experience a telepathic connection
with that person. That is why if strangers asks you to "be telepathic"
with them, the connection may be elusive as you may not be comfortable
being so intimate with a stranger.
Telepathic connections are very intimate. This is why you always hear
of mothers detecting their child in distress or lovers doing the same.
If a stranger comes up to you and asks you to read their mind, there
is very little connection between the two of you for any telepathy to
occur. Empath abilities work by their own natural laws and understanding
these laws will help you to function as an empath. Theta messages are
determined by the strength and quality of the relationship between two
or more people.
As I said before, Theta messages have content that is specific but
not always exact. Since Theta messages originate from within your unconscious
without the benefit of the eyes or ears they are not encoded into clear
signals. The empath mind encodes them with the associations you form,
either consciously or unconsciously.
The big difference between Alpha and Theta comes with how associations
are made. In Alpha you learn to make empath associations consciously.
In Theta the associations are already made at an unconscious
level that rise up to the conscious mind. Your unconscious
encodes the message using whatever materials are available to it, just
like it does when you are dreaming. Functioning in a pure empath state,
Theta is like dreaming while you are awake.
Your unconscious tends to be very creative when encoding information.
It relies on symbology, analogy, myth, beliefs, perceptions, feelings,
memories, imagination, ideas, and even special effects, in order to
paint a Theta message for you. Imagery that is symbolic rather
than actual is Theta imagery.
Let's say you are out driving around when someone at your house tries
to send you a message to pick up a gallon of milk. You know by now that
the message they are sending out is a Beta signal. If you receive that
signal at the Theta level, through telepathy, it may take a variety
of forms. It may come through clearly as the thought, "Hey, I need
to stop and the store and buy a gallon of milk." It may come through
partially, "I think I need to stop at the store," with no
particular thought about the milk. The intent may not come through;
you might just start thinking about the person sending the message without
associating any information.
It is possible to be unaware of the telepathy. You might pull
into a store parking lot, walk into the store and go up to the dairy
section without really thinking about what you are doing. The message
could be encoded symbolically where you suddenly start thinking about
dairy cows but you do not make any associations with the information.
You get home and tell the sender that you were just thinking about dairy
cows. They tell you," I have just been trying and trying to send
you a message to pick up a gallon of milk!"
Theta is the level where empath impressions are encoded and the place
where telepathy is processed. In Alpha the dream voice is heard as a
faint and distant whisper. Theta is the dream voice,
the voice of your inner empath. In Beta the dream voice is not heard
at all, only felt through the body. In Alpha the dream voice is faint
and often drowned out by the mental noise of Beta. In a pure Theta state
the voice would be loud and clear. The problem for you and me is that
we are normally trying to hear the dream voice while awake, in a Beta
or Alpha state. What is needed is a stronger connection to the inner
There are two methods you can use to strengthen your connection to
Theta: reducing mental noise and using an "empath totem."
First let's look at mental noise and how to manage it. I say "manage"
because you will never completely get rid of mental noise. Mental noise
is all of the activity of your waking mind. It is every conscious thought,
perception, feeling, and reaction what is going on at the Beta level.
Mental noise is generally very loud and distracting in contrast with
the quiet soft nature of your dream voice. Mental noise can be any or
all of the following:
1. What you are actively seeing, hearing, touching, smelling,
and tasting at any given moment creates mental noise. If you
are trying to listen to your dream voice and someone is revving up a
motorcycle outside your window, that sound creates a lot of mental noise
from your reaction to it. Until you learn to follow these Beta signals
down to deeper levels, they tend to be very distracting and drown out
the dream voice of Theta.
2. Your conscious thoughts act as mental noise. When
you are analyzing, judging, evaluating, and trying to interpret information,
this creates mental noise. Critical thoughts are mental noise. Self-criticism
is the most oppressive form of mental noise. Thoughts of "I can't
do this," " This is pointless," "This is something
only other people can do," are the most distracting forms of mental
3. Imagined impressions are also mental noise. Imagination
is very useful in empathic functioning because it serves as an endless
reservoir of imagery. Through imagination you are able to make Alpha
associations, which is a way to mentally feel around in the unconscious,
searching for empath content. Imagination is material that is fashioned
by your psyche. Anything fashioned by your imagination has the potential
to encode empath content.
Do not be afraid of imagination, it is not the nemesis of empath evidence.
Imagination is a powerful ability that can be utilized in many ways.
I will give you an example of this in the following discussion of "empath
totems." Still, imagination can also generate mental noise. When
your imagination generates images that do not have empath content, then
it is mental noise.
4. Memories can also act as mental noise. Remembered
impressions can interfere with empathic impressions. If you are empathically
trying to determine what to get a loved one as a gift, and the memory
of all the things you've gotten before, or the memory of things they've
told you keeps popping up, this acts as mental noise which drowns out
the empathic information available through Theta.
Typically these four types of mental noise are all happening together
in one big mesh of mental distraction. The Beta mind is a busy place
with heavy traffic. The next important skill for an empath is to learn
how to manage mental noise.
Managing Mental Noise
Apart from practicing overall stress management, taking good care
of yourself, and having private time to reflect on your life, the best
way to manage mental noise is to create a conditioned relaxation response
There are many advanced ways of creating a relaxation response within
yourself, but I offer here a simple method useful for Empaths. I call
this exercise , "empathic breathing."
1. Set aside 10 to 20 minutes a day for empath breathing.
2. Be consistent and do not skip days. Under even the worst conditions
you can squeeze in 5 minutes for the exercise.
3. Practice the exercise when you are awake and alert. Do not do it
right before going to sleep or within the first fifteen minutes of waking
4. Practice the exercise where you feel you have enough privacy and
with the least amount of distraction. Do not try this exercise with
the television on or where you can hear human voices. Hearing people
talking is very distracting.
5. Sit in a comfortable position where you can hold your spine erect.
Do not strain or sit stiffly. Make sure pillows support you (or a chair)
and that you feel stable before you begin.
6. The exercise is very simple; it involves counting your inhalations
and your exhalations. Learning empathic breathing prepares you to learn
the focused sitting meditation I mentioned earlier. Your first goal
is to be able to do three sets of ten breaths. When you first start
this you may not be able to do all of the breaths in perfect order.
You will build up to this in time. Do not strain or do anything that
makes you feel uncomfortable. Relax and breathe normally between
breaths when you need to.
7. Your second goal is to be able to take long slow breaths that start
in the diaphragm and fill up to your chest. This inhalation is then
held to the count of four and is followed by a long slow exhalation.
8. The first breath begins by inhaling slowly through your nostrils,
filling your lungs from the "bottom up." Fill up your lungs
without straining. When your lungs are full then hold the breath to
the count of four. Exhale slowly by pursing your lips and blowing out
a long silent whistle. Empty your lungs as much as possible without
straining. When your lungs are empty hold to the count of four again.
This counts as one breath.
9. Repeat for up to ten breaths. Controlling and counting the breaths
develops the concentration and focus that you need in order to manage
mental noise. When you first do this you may only be able to do one
set of ten breaths. You may not even be able to do ten breaths, so do
what you can. Whatever you do will start to work for you. It is important
that you do not do anything that will make you uncomfortable. The idea
is to relax and work with your breathing. Your breathing becomes something
you are creating and refining. Each time you sit you work on improving
your breathing and learning to relax into the experience.
10. Your eventual goal is to perform three full sets of ten breaths.
You can do more sets if it suits your capacity. As you do your sets
count your breaths and keep your thoughts focused on the count. Other
thoughts and images will come into your mind, simply let them be. Do
not try to do anything with those thoughts and images.
11. Sometimes you will find yourself traveling through different states
of consciousness while you do this. Other times you will stay in a Beta
state throughout the exercise.
Empath breathing is one of the best things you can do for yourself
for many reasons. It will help you learn to manage your mental noise
and it will help you increase your overall energy level as well. After
you have practiced empathic breathing for a period of time, which differs
from person to person, you will be able to literally turn down the mental
noise in your head by taking ten breaths and counting each one.
Another way to strengthen the connection to your inner empath is to
work with an empath totem. An empath totem is a symbol that you choose
to represent your own empath nature. It can be in any form you select
with no limits. It is only important that the symbol have meaning and
connection for you. It becomes your logo as an empath. In
the same way that European families had family shields and crests representing
their lineage, an empath can establish a totem to represent their particular
link to the empath levels.
An empath totem is formulated at the Theta level, using symbology and
association. Yet all levels of the empath are incorporated into the
totem. To choose a totem simply requires that it be the one you desire,
you feel connected to, that has meaning for you, and that it feels right.
Totems can evolve, change, grow, diversify, and transform. Whatever
totem you choose now for your empath training will go through many stages
of development as you grow in your life. The totem acts as a mirror
of sorts reflecting the obvious and hidden parts of your psyche. It
grows and changes as you grow and change. It becomes the connection
to your empath self and acts as an extension of you. It is one of the
most beautiful and powerful of the tools available to Empaths. Many
fascinating uses and experiences with totems have been shared with me
over the years.
A totem does not need to be secret but it does need to be sacred or
special. It is a tool that is empowered when you treat it with respect
and with purpose. It can be an abstract symbol, it can be a traditional
symbol; it can be represented by an animal - real or "imaginary,"
It can be mythological or entirely created by your imagination. It will
be the vessel into which your empath nature will flow. A totem acts
as a tangible or visible connector to your essentially invisible empathic
Select a totem in your own time. You may already have
one in mind or you may need to work on it for a while. You may be drawn
to a totem by an Alpha or Beta message, or it may come to you through
a dream. Once you have selected your totem you can begin to take steps
to externalize it. You can externalize your totem in different ways.
You can obtain pictures that have your totem in them. You can obtain
objects, jewelry, and decorations of your totem.
You can create your totem through any type of medium you desire. After
a while, your totem will take on a life of it's own directed by and
connected with your own empath nature. Eventually you will be able to
retrieve empath impressions through your totem. In this capacity your
totem can act as a Guide. Just having a totem acts as a grounding mechanism
for your empath nature, energizing you and reinforcing the connection
with your Theta level.
Record the selection of your totem in your dreamtongue journal. Also
indicate in your journal your empathic breathing sessions. You may just
want to record how long the session was but it would better serve your
training record if you were to record your response to each session
for the first three months. After three months empathic breathing will
become a natural skill for you and you could just comment on it as you
This completes the fifth stage of your preliminary training. At this
point you have many thoughts and activities in motion that are shaping
Before closing this chapter I want to share one very intense Theta
experience, where imagery was used in a symbolic fashion. Alpha and
Beta impressions were also involved, but the Theta image was very clear.
Back in 1978 I was sitting in a meditation group. We sat in a circle
in a quiet room meditating together for about an hour. I was relaxed
and was calmly observing images as they passed through my mind. Suddenly
the outlined images of a map appeared in my mind. It looked like an
outline of the southern portions of the U.S. and the northern portions
of South America.
The image stayed in place and I became intrigued. A red spot appeared
on the map near the South American portion. I watched as the red spot
grew larger and larger. It was as clear as if I were watching it on
TV. The spot grew into a large and vicious looking dragon. The dragon
became larger than the map as it twisted and growled fiercely. An intense
feeling of horror and grief flashed through my body like a gust of wind.
Then the image and the feeling disappeared.
When the meditation was over I shared the images with friends but no
one could offer any explanations. I did not have any further feelings
or information about it. So I went home that night and turned on the
TV. Within minutes of turning on the TV news bulletin came on showing
Jonestown, Guyana. They described the discovery of more than 900 bodies
and the nightmare that had taken place. The time that this discovery
was made was the same time that I was seeing the image of the dragon.
I have never forgotten that experience. Many such events in my life
have caused me to lose interest in debating with people about the existence
of empath phenomenon.
Stage Five Review
1. The goal of stage five is to learn about accessing Theta messages
and to learn how to strengthen your connection to Theta (the inner empath).
2. Learning Dreamtongue involves looking at the world through the "eyes
of an empath," seeing that all life is language.
3. Theta acts as an inner channel between your outermost and innermost
4. Theta is normally only available to you while you sleep and dream.
5. Theta messages typically occur as thoughts and symbolic information.
6. Telepathy is a Theta function. Telepathy occurs when two living
things link up in some form of relationship.
7. The ability of sending and receiving in telepathy is shaped by the
personality of the sender and receiver.
8. The relationship between the sender and receiver will determine the
strength and quality of the telepathy.
9. Theta uses imagination to encode empathic impressions.
10. Empathic breathing is an important skill used for managing mental
11. An empath totem can be used to strengthen and nourish your own